Voyeur, Come Join us in the Land of the Free

I see you. Hiding on the side of my chat feed. No, you have no activity but, I feel your eyes on my every post, my every Like and my every uploaded photograph. You are likely reading these words right now.

You tell me in person you hate Facebook. In fact, you say, all social media makes you cringe. You admit to only peeking over your spouses’ shoulder once or twice. You cannot stand the mindless hours people spend wasted watching people online.

Your secret is transparent. Suddenly you know about parties, new babies or events that only have been shared amongst those partaking of their Feeds. You try to cover, sharing you ‘saw it somewhere’ and cannot remember, but my real and non-virtual friend, I know where you get your information.
Why do you taunt yourself so? Join us in the Land of the Free, where participants selectively share with friends and old acquaintances their happiest joys, their favorite parenting gaffs and  quotes for inspiration. Seek out friends that will offer comfort in times of sorrow or remark at how beautiful your children have grown. Allow yourself the luxury of looking up an old boyfriend to see how bald or overweight he has become. Give yourself the gift of becoming closer to someone online than you would if you see each other at the grocery store or a school function. Find new access to where to buy the best luggage or the cheapest hotels. Make a place for your personality and your inquiries of life, to be heard.

I hear you. It’s easy to say you do not wish to walk back into the past, catching up with people you are happy you lost touch with in the first place. Perhaps though, you will realize that some of those old loves, old best friends and childhood memories were not left behind by choice. You may see that these people have left an indelible mark on your heart and you are grateful to have the renewed relationships back in your life. You may find re-connections that are meaningful and special to your ‘real world’ not just its virtual partner. Some though, will be left in your memory for a reason. Stuck in high school, old classmate reconnections still remain annoying, insecure or clingy. Lost loves or old co-workers have been left by the wayside and have not realized their issues. You will be validated by the loss of those relationships and be proud of who you have become as a person. And, you have a choice – you can always un-friend.

Remove your hidden eyes, your shielded access to your husband’s account, your sniffing around my statuses. It has begun to rear its ugly head and your time has come. Do not remain a voyeur in the background, join the Land of the Free and become a member of our friend-filled tribe…I promise to accept you.

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